"I don't know/trust myself and my thoughts and emotions..."
"I feel on edge..."
"I feel numb..."
"I don't why I feel bad, I just do..." "I don't know how to talk about it..."
These are some common statements that I hear from clients that are just beginning therapy with me. These expressions are all symptoms of trauma. I am a trauma-specializing clinician who has worked with many people who have suffered physical abuse, sexual abuse, and bullying, to name a few. Many people think of trauma as a single incident horrific event-- while this is true, there is another kind of trauma that is often experienced, but rarely acknowledged. This is attachment trauma.
Attachment Trauma Attachment trauma is when a child does not feel adequately cared for by their providers. Attachment trauma can result from egregious actions such as abuse or neglect. However, it can also result from emotionally distant or inattentive parents. The child of a workaholic parent, the child of a parent who struggles with their own mental illness, or the child of a generally indifferent parent can result in an adult with symptoms of attachment trauma. These kinds of symptoms can include low self-esteem, inability to regulate or fully experience emotions, inability to create boundaries, impulsivity, and problems with control. If this sounds like you, please visit my "EMDR" and "Next Steps" pages to learn more.